What to ask at a local coffee shop counter to notice everyday kindnesss and start conversations

I have a small ritual when I go to a local coffee shop: I try to ask one tiny, quiet question that nudges the ordinary transaction into something more human. Not every attempt turns into a conversation, and that’s fine—sometimes the question just makes the barista smile, and that small exchange...

What to ask at a local coffee shop counter to notice everyday kindnesss and start conversations
Mar 03, 2026 • by Élise Laurent

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