How to use a five-minute café question to turn strangers into conversational allies

I have a small ritual that has quietly changed the way I move through cities and cafés: the five-minute café question. It’s a tiny conversational experiment — equal parts curiosity and constraint — that turns a brief, awkward exchange into something unexpectedly warm and human. Over time...

How to use a five-minute café question to turn strangers into conversational allies
Aug 13, 2026 • by Élise Laurent

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