How a week of saying 'i don't know' to familiar questions changed my relationships

I decided, out of a mixture of curiosity and mild exhaustion, to spend a week answering familiar questions with three small words: “I don’t know.” Not because I had nothing to say, but because I wanted to see what happened when I refused the quick, comforting move to certainty. The experiment...

How a week of saying 'i don't know' to familiar questions changed my relationships
May 11, 2026 • by Élise Laurent

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